Are You a Joyful Mom? How to have more joy in motherhood

Have you seen the trending ticktock video where a woman videos herself doing mundane housework with a fake smile plastered on her face in response to someone saying she should smile more?

The message that you can’t be genuinely happy or joyful while washing the dishes, changing a diaper, taking out trash, or folding laundry is a toxic lie!

Some people like to use the verse Philippines 4:13 like a motivational quote to hype themselves up to accomplish some goal they dreamed up, when in reality God is giving us something greater: the ability to thrive in any situation we find ourselves in!

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Phi 4:11-13

It’s important to do our job well, but what I feel is even more important than a sparkling home is that your family sees you smiling.

Because service with a martyred attitude does not bless our families.

Start with one thing

Focusing on one thing has helped me so much. Instead of letting everything overwhelm me and throw me into depression, I decided to celebrate when I accomplished one thing. If you follow the FlyLady system, that one thing should be your kitchen sink. Getting it empty and wiped down can really lift your spirits! If your dishes are already washed, find one other thing that you can do and complete in under 40 minutes. Maybe folding the laundry? You might find motivation and inspiration come back when you complete a task like that.

change your perspective

Sometimes our mindset is hindering us from finding joy in house cleaning. Do you still view washing dishes as a punishment for misbehaving as a child? If you grew up having to do dishes as a punishment, you might have to tell yourself that that is not the case anymore! Instead of making it a dread, turn on your favorite audio book, an online sermon, or your favorite music playlist.

Maybe you unconsciously view these duties as less important than other more appreciated tasks such as working outside the home or baking brownies! I personally struggled with this until I realized that I am more likely to bake for my family if my kitchen is clean and I’m more free to work on my business when the house is running smoothly.

Lastly, if you struggle with feeling unappreciated, remember that you are doing this to bless your family and that God loves a cheerful giver! Do everything with a desire to please Him first. Blessing your family is a happy result.

Find your joy

We mother’s are key in setting the mood in our home. Try one of these mood elevating tips today as you clean

  1. Smile more! And no sarcastic, aggressive fake smiles! Your family will love to see you smile! You may not realize this, but your children and even your husband are very aware when mom is happy and it naturally lifts the mood of the whole family! (Take care of yourself and this will come more easily, but sometimes faking until we make it works to. Science.)
  2. Sing a song. Or two. Or more! Singing has a direct physical and psychological effect! Your will be healthier and happier if you sing as you work, and your children will grow up with wonderful memories of their mom. There is nothing as poignant and lasting as the memory of a mother singing.
  3. Take your work outside. Sunshine and fresh air can do a lot for the direction of a “bad” day. My favorite way to do this is to hang laundry on the line, fold clothes on a blanket outside, or simply take a break from house work to do yard work.

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